Dan Savage. (Charles Sykes / TT NYHETSBYRÅN)

”Din partner kan inte vara allt – vi har för höga krav”

Ha en så smal definition som möjligt av vad otrohet är. Det är författaren, aktivisten och sexrådgivaren Dan Savages bästa relationsråd när han intervjuas av The Guardian.

Savage menar att människor måste tillåta sina partners att exempelvis se på porr, ha nära band till kollegor på jobbet eller ibland kolla in exets bilder på Instagram. Han menar att många ställer för höga krav på sina livskamrater, vilket bara leder till besvikelse.

– En person kan inte vara allt för en annan. Ändå förväntar vi oss att våra långvariga romantiska partners ska vara vår bästa vän, affärspartner, terapeut och sexpartner – det är för mycket för en relation att bära, säger han.

Läs hela intervjun i länken nedan.

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Dan Savage
Wikipedia (en)
Daniel Keenan Savage (born October 7, 1964) is an American author, media pundit, journalist, and LGBT community activist. He writes Savage Love, an internationally syndicated relationship and sex advice column. In 2010, Savage and his husband, Terry Miller, began the It Gets Better Project to help prevent suicide among LGBT youth. He has also worked as a theater director, sometimes credited as Keenan Hollahan. Born in Chicago to Roman Catholic parents, Savage attended the University of Illinois at Urbana–Champaign where he received a Bachelor of Fine Arts degree in acting. After living in West Berlin from 1988 to 1990, he moved to Madison, Wisconsin, where he befriended Tim Keck, co-founder of The Onion. When Keck moved to Seattle, Washington, Savage moved as well to become an advice columnist for The Stranger, which Keck founded; he had offered Savage the position after Savage wrote a sample column which impressed him. Savage has since become a sex columnist and a vocal proponent of LGBT rights in the United States, voicing his advocacy through his column, Savage Love, and a podcast version of his column, the Savage Lovecast. In 2001, Savage and his readership coined the term 'pegging' to describe a woman anally penetrating a man with a strap-on dildo.Outside of his writings and podcasts, Savage has advocated for progressive politics and advancing the rights of LGBT youth to prevent suicide in the community. He has opposed laws restricting pornography and the sale of sex toys, and founded the It Gets Better Project with his husband Terry Miller, whom he married in 2005. Savage has been featured on numerous television programs and news outlets, including Countdown with Keith Olbermann and Anderson Cooper 360. Savage has attracted controversy over his comments and actions related to LGBT issues. He coined the term "santorum" to define a by-product of sex after former senator Rick Santorum made anti-LGBT comments in 2003, and condemned The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for its support of California Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage in California. His activism and public speaking has brought praise from celebrities and politicians, including former president Barack Obama.

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